Does Your Childhood Hold You Back?


Have you come to a point in your life and got stuck and unable to move on?

I've been shocked recently to discover how many women and men have suffered one trauma or another during childhood, in particular the amount that have been through abuse.

The experience of abuse, at an age when it would be impossible to know how to handle it, is horrific, be it beatings, humiliation or sexual abuse. These experiences stay with many children, through their teens right into adulthood, bringing up insecurity, anxiety jealousy and even threatening or violent behaviour patterns throughout life.

And maybe it's here that your life gets stuck. In day-to-day situations where you feel insecure, anxious, jealous or violent you'll probably revert to a behaviour pattern that you learned in your childhood. When you use that to deal with a current issue this is what you do?

You react - withdrawing or lashing out - even though you know the current situation has nothing to do with what is happening now, and before you know it you have lost an opportunity.

In the aftermath regret and depression set in. You might ask why this happens to you and why life is such a mess and why, every time things seem to get better something comes along and stops you from progressing. Within it all you might even be searching for the meaning and point of life.

If you search for the meaning and point to life and are stopped just knowing and believing the three points below is a very good foundation for your future.

1. I want to tell you that whatever life has dealt you up to this point, that your future can be brighter.

2. I want to tell you that you do possess a unique gift. I also want to tell you that you have a distinctive way of expressing that gift.

3. What might well have happened is that that gift has been buried underneath all the other confusion and chaos.

The last few years of my life have been dedicated to helping people from all walks of life, with all kinds of childhood and adult issues. The moments when they overcome what previously stopped them is very powerful. Their stories are amazing.

Whatever it is that stops you in life right now I hope this article has helped.

Love & best Wishes

Jo Ball (LCA, Dip)
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life

I want to help you move on and become unstoppable. At Unstoppable Life, I am developing the next generation of people overcoming block in life and becoming more powerful than ever before. These people are discovering and defining their life purpose. Join my Fr>ee newsletter now at Unstoppable Life and explore my site and discover a mass of information that others are using to better their lives http://www.unstoppablelife.com

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