Are You The Master Of Your Destiny?

How strong are you? 

I'm not asking if you can carry 150 lbs. of weight.  What I'm
after is your strength of character.  How resilient are you to
hang on to your dreams amidst the raging forces of discouragement
and criticisms? 

There are far too many individuals who never get to experience
the joy of attaining their desires because other people's
influence has significantly (and sometimes negatively) affected
their crucial decisions. 

Are there instances in your life when other people said that
you should not continue your plans because they're never gonna
work?  What did you do?  Did you continue your endeavors or did
you just follow their command?

If you always adhere to other's beliefs and opinions even though
they are contrary to yours, you're just torturing yourself.  It's
like you don't have a mind of your own.  You're like a shadow
following the moves of someone else.

You may listen to other people's advices, but never let them
control you.  If their advices would contribute to your
success and well being, then by all means follow them.  But
if they would hinder you and stray you away from what you
really want in life, then you've got to make a stand and
pursue your heart's aspirations.

Sure there would be criticisms.  But if you always avoid
them, then you will never be truly happy.

As one famous person said, "There is a sure way to avoid
criticisms, be nothing and do nothing.  This remedy never
fails."  True enough.

Take my case.

When I was in first year college, my dad wanted me to shift
my course to Physical Therapy because it was in demand in the
United States at that time.  But I wanted to continue my
studies in Accountancy.  I remained firm with my decision
and after some negotiations they finally gave in.

Then there's my love life.  Chinese tradition states that
Chinese people marry their own kind.  (No offense)  But I fell
madly in love with this Filipino girl.  Despite all the
criticisms, discouragement, and harsh words (pardon me), I
defended my love for her.  Right now we're going strong and
my relatives have respected my decision.

You see, if I have given up easily in any of the two scenarios,
I would've deprived myself of joy and contentment in my life.

Sometimes other people's words would cut like a knife.  But
never be disheartened.  Listen to the voice inside of you. 
We will never be able to satisfy everybody because each of
us is unique.  We have our own distinct traits and values.
Respect for each other's opinions should be upheld.

With that said, I would like to leave this final message that
sums it all up.  Follow your heart and happiness will follow.

Michael Lee is the author of "How To Be A Red Hot Persuasion Wizard," an ebook designed to fully improve your relationships, multiply your profits, win negotiations, and help you attain all the desired freedom and power you could ever dream of. Go to http://www.20daypersuasion.com now and grab a sample chapter.